You might enjoy Wagaya no O-inari-sama. The main character is a kitsune, so she switches gender, but usually wears a female form, guarding a pair of brothers (high-school and elementary aged) because she loved their mother. There's also a sentinel-miko, who's one of those character types that is super-competent and awesome in battle, and then fumbles around awkwardly in normal life; It's one of my favorite archetypes, and you don't usually see it in a female, which is kind of cool, though I don't know how you feel about that. There's a recurring non-human adversary/side character I can't tell you a lot about because it's spoilery, but she's kind of adorable and awesome and sometimes evil and a really alien mindset that you might like. <3 There's also the prerequisite school-girl-with-a-crush, who isn't my favorite, but isn't that bad all things considered, either. Also, apropos of nothing, there is a baby fox. Who is kind of toxic levels of cute.

It's not very shippy (though the kitsune and the boy's dad have some interesting undertones, imo), and is usually pretty light and fluffy, but it's funny and cute and I think you'd like it.


Also, it's super-old and you may (probably?) have already read it, but on the off-chance you haven't? Tolkien's works might interest you. Galadriel runs her own kingdom, and in the silmarillion you get to see her tell the gods and the heroes of her homeland to fuck off, pretty much, and runs off to start it up herself with her lover. Arwen and her grandmother (great-grandmother?) Luthien both defy their people and their families to go off and have adventures and rule kingdoms with their mortal lovers. But particularly, I think you'd enjoy Eowen in the Two Towers and Return of the King, and her relationship with Aragorn, the way she wants him in a romantic sense, somewhat, but mostly she wants him to be her general, to go and fight and win glory and follow him into battle and yeah. She's kind of fabulous.

I'd rec digital devil saga, but I'm pretty sure you've played it?